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5 Sure Signs of a Married Man in Love With Another Woman

When you are in a relationship, the infidelity of your man is one of the major fears. Nobody wants to be one of many. Such fear may lead to jealousy, paranoia, but also extreme suffering when your doubts come true. 

It is always challenging to be able to build a serene and fulfilling married life when you feel neglected when you have doubts or even worse if you google the question “How do you know if your husband is in love with another woman?”

If you want to know if your husband is really cheating on you, keep tabs on everything he says and does, paying attention to the most subtle changes. 

Let’s read the clearest signs your man is attracted to another woman and how you can best respond. 

5 Signs of a Married Man in Love With Another Woman

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This is an uncomfortable situation for many. After all, who wants to be just one of many? Once the suspicion has come true, it is difficult to put an end to mistrust. But how can you tell if your man met someone else? Here are some pointers on how to tell if your husband is in love with another woman.

You Have Intimacy Issues

If your man avoids physical contact with you, you can sense your husband fantasizes about another woman, while he is intimate with you. He might call you with a new name absent-mindedly, address you differently, or your eye contacts seem like he is blind.

Your Man’s Behavior Is Making You Feel That Something Is Not Right

If that happens, pay attention to your instincts. Ignoring them means that you want to blind yourself to the truth. You know your spouse’s habits, routines, and attitudes better than anyone, so be wary when these things change.

Your Man Constantly Talks About Your Relationship Ending When You Fight or Argue

He says things like, “What would you do if our relationship ended?” or “If anything were to happen to us, I would always love you as a friend.” In general, your husband seems very contrary to your relationship. Your spouse makes these statements because he has a lover to support if your relationship ends. If your partner repeats these types of statements frequently, be suspicious.

Your Man Is Very Moody

He seems very upbeat and excited about leaving you but acts gloomy and depressed when around you. If your spouse is on a long-term affair, he will try to keep both relationships running smoothly. Any problems that the cheater has in one relationship will spread to the other relationship as well. This is inevitable.

The Good Old Secretive Behavior

If your husband is overly possessive about his mobile and it becomes a typical gesture that he has to use his phone before he gives it to you, it is justifiable to believe that there is something in the phone that needs to stay hidden from you. When he comes home late blaming work pressure but looks quite fresh and relaxed, an unusual display of aggression when you ask where he has been – it is one of the signs your husband has a crush on another woman.

What to Do If My Husband Is Attracted to Another Woman – Tips From a Psychologist

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If you’ve noticed your husband talks to another woman every day, behaves secretly, and returns home late, before taking any action, you need to comprehend the matter and respect the sensitivity of it.

Try to Express Your Feelings

If your husband is a cheater, the very first thing you should do is initiate an honest conversation. However, while talking to your husband, don’t show fury or aggression. The best thing you should do is tell your man how you feel. Also, you may ask him why he became a cheater,  and what are the main reasons. Don’t try to be overly sympathetic, either. Let him know that you are not so happy about its actions.

Find Out His Sexual Orientation

There have been several cases when a man’s homosexuality revealed after marriage, or maybe even after having children. The role of a wife here should be to support her husband. Sometimes, sexual orientations are hard to disclose, hard to accept for oneself even. Cultural barriers, societal and family constraints, or simply a person’s nature can be the causes that he has not been able to tell you about it. And most of the time, men go through immense mental pressure. So support is the most humane thing a wife can provide.

Try to Be Independent

If you are dependent on your husband and the marriage turns into an act of responsibility, try to find a job. Being independent is the best resort here. Divorce or separation is not always possible or affordable. And alimony is rather backdated in the modern times of gender equality, until and unless there are constraints, such as you have children to take care of, you don’t have job experience, or you are in a foreign country with limited knowledge of things.

Final Thoughts

It is not uncommon for either or both members of a couple to give up their career, hobbies, and even way of thinking in order to devote themselves to their marriage. Hence, if someone, be it a man or a woman, falls in love after marriage, is infatuated by another person, or even has a secret crush, it is always not a good sign.

The matter needs to be faced, and while a fight is inevitable, the resolution will only come through mutual understanding – the most valuable asset of a married couple.

I'm Alana Wade, a psychologist with over five years of experience working with relationships. I've dedicated my career to helping couples and families create lasting, meaningful connections.

One comment

  1. I don’t know what I’d be doing with a man who keeps on popping the “what if we break up” questions. I’d break up with you before you are even done with the question.

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