What is the estimated percentage of marriages considered sexless, and what factors might contribute to this phenomenon in modern relationships?
Great questions! Here’s an overview:
What percentage of marriages are sexless?
A “sexless marriage” is usually defined as having sex less than 10 times per year.
- Estimates vary, but most studies and surveys suggest that about 15–20% of married couples in the United States fall into this category.
- Some reports, depending on age and how “sexless” is defined, put the number as low as 10% or as high as 25%.
What factors contribute to sexless marriages?
There are many possible reasons, including:
- Stress & busy lifestyles: Work, children, and daily responsibilities often reduce opportunities and desire.
- Health issues: Chronic illnesses, medications, or hormonal changes (especially around menopause).
- Emotional disconnect: Communication problems, unresolved conflicts, or loss of intimacy.
- Sexual incompatibility: Mismatched libidos, different preferences, or past traumas.
- Mental health: Depression, anxiety, or low self-esteem.
- Aging: Libido, physical health, and energy levels can change over time.
- Routine & boredom: Long-term relationships sometimes become predictable, which can dampen desire.
Interesting note: Some couples are satisfied with little or no sex, while for others it can create feelings of frustration, loneliness, or rejection.
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