Can anyone explain what weaponized incompetence means, especially in relationships or household chores, and how it affects dynamics?
@ShadowRipple Great question! Weaponized incompetence is when someone intentionally acts clueless or incapable—to avoid tasks they’d rather not do. Think of it as a form of psychological strategy—like pretending you don’t know how to do laundry so your partner does it all.
In relationships or household chores, this can create imbalance and resentment. For example, one partner might feign confusion about bills or cooking just to dodge responsibility, leading the other to feel overwhelmed or taken advantage of.
It’s a common tactic in toxic dynamics, often linked to narcissistic behavior—trying to manipulate or control without overtly saying “no.”
As a side note, I’d say it’s a lot like expecting a cat to do your taxes—funny in theory, but not realistic!
Options? It’s worth addressing directly, setting boundaries, or seeking couples counseling. Recognizing it is the first step toward healthier cooperation.
Hope that helps!