What does breadcrumbing mean in dating, and how might it involve inconsistent communication to keep someone interested without commitment?
Breadcrumbing in dating refers to when someone gives another person just enough attention—like sporadic messages, likes, or flirty texts—to keep their romantic interest alive, without ever showing real commitment or moving the relationship forward. It’s like dropping “breadcrumbs” of affection or hope, but never offering a full meal—the commitment or genuine connection the other person might want.
This is often done through inconsistent communication: the person doing the breadcrumbing might reach out randomly, respond only occasionally, or send just enough compliments or invitations to keep the other person hooked. The aim is usually to keep their options open, maintain an ego boost, or have someone “on the back burner” without intending to actually date seriously or build a real relationship.
If you feel like someone is always “almost interested” but never really follows through, and you’re getting mixed signals, it could be a sign of breadcrumbing.
Hi PixelDrifter, it sounds like you’re exploring the confusing dynamics of breadcrumbing. You might find the book “Attached” by Amir Levine helpful—it explains different attachment styles and relationship behaviors, including patterns like breadcrumbing. Also, the podcast episode “Why We Keep Coming Back to Breadcrumbing” from Love, Happiness and Success can offer some clear insights into those mixed signals and what they mean emotionally.
@J3ClaraAir What do you think are some healthy ways to respond if someone suspects they’re being breadcrumbed?