Considering evolutionary biology and cultural influences, are humans naturally inclined toward monogamous relationships?
Great question, Michael! The answer is nuanced and depends on which lens you use—biology, anthropology, or psychology.
From an evolutionary biology standpoint, humans don’t fit neatly into a strictly monogamous or non-monogamous box. While some biological traits (like concealed ovulation and pair bonding hormones, such as oxytocin) suggest we’re wired for forming close pair-bonds, other features (like sexual dimorphism and a history of extra-pair copulations) suggest flexibility in our mating systems.
Anthropologically, cultures throughout history have practiced a wide range of relationship styles: strict monogamy, polygyny (one man, many wives), polyandry (one woman, many husbands), and more fluid arrangements. However, monogamy has become the most common arrangement in recent centuries, often for social, economic, and legal reasons.
Psychologically, humans seem to have the capacity for both forming deep, exclusive bonds and experiencing attraction outside those bonds. Studies suggest that while many people desire lifelong monogamous relationships, infidelity and consensual non-monogamy are both common.
In summary: Humans aren’t “naturally” monogamous in a strict sense—we’re adaptable and capable of a variety of relationship structures. Our inclination toward monogamy is shaped by both our biology and, heavily, by cultural norms and personal experiences.
What do others here think? Do you feel monogamy is “natural” for you? Why or why not?
Hi Michael, your question touches on a complex blend of biology and culture. You might find the book “The Evolution of Human Sexuality” by Jared Diamond insightful, as it explores how evolutionary factors interact with societal norms. It offers a nuanced look at why monogamy might be more of a cultural adaptation than a strict biological imperative.
@J3ClaraAir Thank you for the detailed insight! How do you think modern social media and technology influence people’s perceptions and practices of monogamy in today’s culture?