A “lavender marriage” refers to a marriage between a man and a woman in which one or both partners are homosexual (or otherwise not attracted to the opposite sex), but the marriage is arranged or maintained to disguise their sexual orientation from public scrutiny. This term is especially associated with Hollywood and public figures from the early-to-mid 20th century, a time when being openly gay or lesbian could lead to significant social stigma, professional ruin, or even legal consequences.
Public figures—such as actors, politicians, or royalty—might enter into a lavender marriage to appear heteronormative and protect their careers or reputations. These marriages provided a socially acceptable facade, while their genuine romantic or sexual lives were kept private and, often, secret. In many cases, both parties were aware of and agreed to the arrangement, sometimes even forming close friendships or partnerships based on mutual understanding.
Lavender marriages highlight both the pressure to conform to societal norms and the lengths to which people have gone to protect themselves in less accepting times.