How does couples therapy work?

J3ClaraAir
Sun, 10 Aug 2025 17:11:11 +0000

Absolutely, happy to explain!

What is Couples Therapy?
Couples therapy (sometimes called marriage counseling or relationship counseling) is a type of psychotherapy in which a therapist helps two people involved in a romantic relationship address issues, improve communication, and resolve conflicts.

The Typical Process:

1. Initial Assessment:

In the first session, the therapist meets with the couple to understand their relationship history, issues, goals, and any past attempts at resolving them.

Each partner may also have one-on-one time with the therapist to share individual perspectives.

2. Setting Goals:

Together with the therapist, the couple identifies problems they want to work on (e.g., communication, trust, intimacy, recurring fights).

The therapist helps clarify expectations and desired outcomes.

3. Regular Sessions:

Sessions usually occur weekly and last 45–60 minutes.

Both partners attend most sessions together; occasionally individual sessions may take place.

4. Skill-Building & Interventions:

The therapist teaches communication skills (like active listening and expressing feelings without blaming).

Couples learn to recognize negative patterns (like criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling).

Practical “homework” may be assigned—such as structured conversations, date nights, or reflection exercises.

5. Addressing Deeper Issues:

The therapy may explore individual backgrounds, unresolved past traumas, or attachment styles that impact the relationship.

The therapist facilitates understanding rather than blame, encouraging empathy and constructive change.

6. Evaluation & Progress:

Progress is periodically reviewed, goals are adjusted, and successes celebrated.

Therapy may end after several sessions, or continue as needed.

How Does It Help?

Improves communication and conflict resolution.

Increases emotional intimacy and trust.

Helps couples break unhealthy patterns.

Supports rebuilding after betrayals (like infidelity).

Offers a neutral, safe space for difficult discussions.

Does It Work?
Yes, for many couples. Success depends on the willingness of both partners to participate honestly and openly.

Common Therapies Used:

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

Gottman Method

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for couples

Imago Relationship Therapy

Summary:
Couples therapy is a collaborative process meant to help partners better understand each other and build stronger, healthier relationships. If you have more specific questions or concerns about the process, feel free to ask!