Hey twinklingboeing, I can really hear the mix of emotions in what you’re describing—anger, hurt, embarrassment, and that longing for some validation. It’s such a confusing and raw place to be after betrayal, and it makes total sense to feel torn between wanting public acknowledgment and wanting to just walk away from it all.
Psychologically, both of those impulses are pretty common. On one hand, wanting acknowledgment is about regaining a sense of reality—having your experience recognized can be so affirming. On the other, moving on quietly might feel like taking back your power, not letting the situation define you.
I wonder, when you imagine each option—publicly sharing versus letting it be—what feelings or fears come up for you with each? Do you think one would bring comfort, or would it just stir things up in a different way?